The Four-Letter Word Church Leaders Should Always Use (Part 1)

Right now, what do you need more than anything else in your life and ministry?

I don’t think it’s more time, though I’m certain you’d welcome that.

And I don’t think it’s more money, though few of us would turn down a raise.

What we need as church leaders is help.

Strike that.

What we need as church leaders is to learn to ask for help.

We shouldn’t fear uttering that four-letter word, yet so many of us don’t ask for help despite the fact that we know without a doubt how much help people in our positions really need.

In a 2008 study of predominantly white, male, middle-aged church leaders from North Carolina, “the rate of depression was … 11.1 percent—double the then national rate of 5.5 percent.” Unsurprisingly to church leaders like you, “A number of factors were found to be powerful predictors of depression and anxiety, most notably job stress” (“Clergy More Likely to Suffer From Depression, Anxiety”).

If I had to guess, this is but one of dozens of similar studies.

But it doesn’t take survey results to tell you what you already know.

You have friends and connections in ministry who’ve told you how low they’ve gotten.

Or you’ve been that friend or connection telling another church leader how low you’ve been.

Or you belong to the silent majority of church leaders who suffer alone.

At Provident Staffing, we rely on a simple truth: healthy leaders lead healthy teams and churches.

Over the next few months, every one of our posts will speak to how we can seek to become healthier leaders so that our families, teams, and churches will likewise thrive. This means challenging ourselves in the spiritual, physical, emotional, and relational areas of our lives. In our recently released free ebook, Start With You, we go in-depth into each of these areas.

But starting with you has to begin somewhere, and that beginning is a simple four-letter word we so seldom say:


Next week, we'll look at the top three reasons church leaders use to not ask for help and what you can do to overcome those excuses.